Yes, that's right. I am a big old fattie that stretches out shirring, takes out lacing to fit my enormous chest, throws on shape wear just to slim down those last two inches on my waist to fit into my favorite skirt, and take out seams to add in more fabric so it fits me.
My weight is higher than most, and I can safely admit and say that it is not because of some hereditary thing or something to do with my thyroid - I just really love red meat and cheese, and I consume way, way too much of those things (at least I used to). And I seldom work out!
So here I am, with a 45" (107cm) bust and a 35" (89cm) waist, and I am on every fully shirred dress like butter on toast. (mmm, buttered toast!)
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I never really cared about my weight, because even I was working out every day and eating semi-healthy, my bust was about 38" and my waist was about 29-30". No matter what, I was under that "plus size Lolita" category (even though I had a super low body fat percentage and had visible muscular definition).
For some reason, every time I see anonymous and non-anonymous complaints about larger Lolitas, it is always the same complaint, different day - "Stretching out the brand! Ruining the clothes! Get the fatties out! Stay out of Lolita fashion you whale!" or something similar to that effect.
I get it. You are looking for beautiful coordinates when suddenly, your met with this larger than life body taking dresses that might be your dream dress and completely change the look of what ideally, in your mind, it should look like. You are offended! Upset! Aghast! Nothing can remove this feeling of disgust outside of complaining about it openly or privately. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, of course.
The issue comes into play when you feel like you can say something like, "Get out of Lolita fashion!" Even today, Lolitas across the world cannot agree on a set of "rules" or "guidelines" to live by. Maybe a majority on some of them, but there is always a nay sayer somewhere in the midst of the group. This is evident by the Lolita Fashion & "the Rules" survey results I just gave out last week. No one issue was there a clear consensus by every single person taking the survey that this is the set in stone piece of Lolita fashion.
So while yes, Lolita fashion for the most part fits to a certain magic set of smaller-than-the-average-Westerner measurements, how many people actually fit every single set of those measurements, Japanese Lolitas included? With the exclusionary piece that happens often in the media to assume ALL Japanese are these thin little things, you forget that we fatties exist in Japan as well! (the horror, I know, toss your pitchfolks - or payloaders - for a bit and let me finish)
We are going to be in Lolita fashion, people much, much larger than me, and people much, much smaller than me. Everyone has different reasons for being fat, average, or thin - from reasons like mine for being a lazy butt to some kind of hereditary component that gives them super fast or super slow metabolisms to a condition that causes them to gain or be unable to gain weight - it does not really matter. People are people, and if we were all, what you consider, perfect specimens of the perfect measurements and perfect attributes - well, that is quite the boring place to live in (and has a vague sense of some extreme master race syndrome that creeps me out completely).
The beautiful thing about all these differences? Different cuts look better or worse on different bodies. Certain combos look dynamite on some while on others fall flat. It gives a diversity of problems to coordinating that can only be overcome by someone with that body type taking the clothes, troubleshooting, and making it work.
I have seen people of all sizes coordinate horribly, and at the same token, coordinate beautifully! It really is about that person's tastes and how they can artistically apply them to their bodies. Every coordinate is a work of art that the person creates with the items and canvas they have - if everyone had the exact same canvas, there would be a limitation on the amount of unique pieces that could be created.
No matter what size you are - big, average, or small - you can wear Lolita fashion. Whether you wear it well is an entirely different story, and has nothing to do with your body type.
So please, fattie haters - come up with a good reason you hate a coordinate. Does it not fit well? Did they mess up on their color coordinating? Give some constructive criticism instead of taking the easy (and excessively used and boring) road of, "You are fat!" We fat people know, and are aware.
In the meantime, I got some peanut butter with my name on it.
My weight is higher than most, and I can safely admit and say that it is not because of some hereditary thing or something to do with my thyroid - I just really love red meat and cheese, and I consume way, way too much of those things (at least I used to). And I seldom work out!
So here I am, with a 45" (107cm) bust and a 35" (89cm) waist, and I am on every fully shirred dress like butter on toast. (mmm, buttered toast!)
I never really cared about my weight, because even I was working out every day and eating semi-healthy, my bust was about 38" and my waist was about 29-30". No matter what, I was under that "plus size Lolita" category (even though I had a super low body fat percentage and had visible muscular definition).
For some reason, every time I see anonymous and non-anonymous complaints about larger Lolitas, it is always the same complaint, different day - "Stretching out the brand! Ruining the clothes! Get the fatties out! Stay out of Lolita fashion you whale!" or something similar to that effect.
I get it. You are looking for beautiful coordinates when suddenly, your met with this larger than life body taking dresses that might be your dream dress and completely change the look of what ideally, in your mind, it should look like. You are offended! Upset! Aghast! Nothing can remove this feeling of disgust outside of complaining about it openly or privately. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, of course.
The issue comes into play when you feel like you can say something like, "Get out of Lolita fashion!" Even today, Lolitas across the world cannot agree on a set of "rules" or "guidelines" to live by. Maybe a majority on some of them, but there is always a nay sayer somewhere in the midst of the group. This is evident by the Lolita Fashion & "the Rules" survey results I just gave out last week. No one issue was there a clear consensus by every single person taking the survey that this is the set in stone piece of Lolita fashion.
So while yes, Lolita fashion for the most part fits to a certain magic set of smaller-than-the-average-Westerner measurements, how many people actually fit every single set of those measurements, Japanese Lolitas included? With the exclusionary piece that happens often in the media to assume ALL Japanese are these thin little things, you forget that we fatties exist in Japan as well! (the horror, I know, toss your pitchfolks - or payloaders - for a bit and let me finish)
We are going to be in Lolita fashion, people much, much larger than me, and people much, much smaller than me. Everyone has different reasons for being fat, average, or thin - from reasons like mine for being a lazy butt to some kind of hereditary component that gives them super fast or super slow metabolisms to a condition that causes them to gain or be unable to gain weight - it does not really matter. People are people, and if we were all, what you consider, perfect specimens of the perfect measurements and perfect attributes - well, that is quite the boring place to live in (and has a vague sense of some extreme master race syndrome that creeps me out completely).
The beautiful thing about all these differences? Different cuts look better or worse on different bodies. Certain combos look dynamite on some while on others fall flat. It gives a diversity of problems to coordinating that can only be overcome by someone with that body type taking the clothes, troubleshooting, and making it work.
I have seen people of all sizes coordinate horribly, and at the same token, coordinate beautifully! It really is about that person's tastes and how they can artistically apply them to their bodies. Every coordinate is a work of art that the person creates with the items and canvas they have - if everyone had the exact same canvas, there would be a limitation on the amount of unique pieces that could be created.
No matter what size you are - big, average, or small - you can wear Lolita fashion. Whether you wear it well is an entirely different story, and has nothing to do with your body type.
So please, fattie haters - come up with a good reason you hate a coordinate. Does it not fit well? Did they mess up on their color coordinating? Give some constructive criticism instead of taking the easy (and excessively used and boring) road of, "You are fat!" We fat people know, and are aware.
In the meantime, I got some peanut butter with my name on it.